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| You were born happy. We all were. This is probably something that no one has ever told you. Mother Nature or God, depending on your belief system, doesn't create unhappy creatures. This world does. You had to learn how to be unhappy. More importantly, you were taught. All we have to do is help you find your way back to who you already are. Don't worry. It's not far. It's much closer than you think. Being happy and joyful is your natural state. You don't need to do anything to become this way, again. However, you might have to undo some things. First, let's start when you were born before anything happened that you might need to undo. What could have occurred is not long after your birth you experienced some very unnatural things. Imagine that you were placed in a chair with a table in front of you. You weren't big enough to reach the table yet, but it was your table and will be yours for the rest of your life. From this moment on, many different things were placed on your table. Each one was a new experience. Some lasted for a short time. Some lasted longer. But, none of these things were suppose to remain on your table. They could be good things or bad things. It doesn't matter. Anything on your table is an obstruction between you and the world and must be removed. You are perfect just the way you are. You only have one table so it's important to keep it clear. This is how you maintain your perfect state, happy and joyful. And, this is how you have new experiences. You can't have new experiences if there's no room on your table for them. The more experiences you have the richer your life will become and the more you can help others enrich theirs. But when you are a child, you need help. You can't keep your table clear all by yourself. We are social creatures so a child absorbs the social environment that it is born into, good, bad, happy or sad. No matter how much a parent thinks they love their child, if the parent doesn't know how to be happy, they cannot teach the child how to. Instead, they will only take energy from the child while unknowingly teaching it how to become unhappy. Parents are supposed to give energy to the child not take it from them. Some people even think that having children will make them happy. This is an unfair reason to have children. A child does not need this responsibility. Even if a parent gives a child every single thing the child could ever want in material possessions, this will still not make the child happy. Material things are not love or happiness. Rich or poor, you cannot teach something that you, yourself, don't know how to be. Happiness is not some elusive goal outside ourselves that we should spend a lifetime pursuing. It is within us. It is us. We are expressions of life on this planet. The only thing keeping us from realizing this is the mental programming we received from being born into an unhappy and unhealthy environment. If you were born in the modern world, you were born without a tribe and given a table instead. You were a natural creature with all the instincts that you will ever need and placed in an artificial world that forced you to rely on your thoughts instead. You left the warmth and love of your mother's body and may have found yourself in a sterile and impersonal environment surrounded by strangers. Within hours or days, you may have been placed in a crib alone and left there to cry yourself to sleep. This is a very traumatic experience for a newborn child (The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff). By well-intentioned parents who were only doing what this unhealthy society taught them, the battle over your life between your heart and mind had begun. If the artificial system we are presently living in is making a lot of adults unhappy, they will knowingly or unknowingly teach children to be the same way. A child is born happy and joyful, but as it grows it has no choice, but to adapt and behave according to the world around it and play by the mind-made rules of the unhappy people who created this artificial system. Before this happens, the child may even try to fix the unbalance in its immediate world with the joy and happiness that it still possesses by being funny, playful, caring, perfect, an overachiever, etc. The child may try to give as much energy as he or she can in order to improve the social environment they were born into. Unfortunately, you cannot make someone else happy. Happiness comes from within. Takers suck energy from givers until the giver has nothing left to give then the taker moves on to someone else while the giver feels like they failed in some way. A child with unhappy parents may drive themselves to failure trying to be good enough to compensate for their parent's unhappiness. This pattern often continues into adulthood as takers take and givers give the individual never knowing that there's any other way to be. If we are born perfect, happy and joyful and this world changes us into unhappy people then all we have to do is remember what we already knew before we received this bad programming. The mind is like a computer and can be easily programmed if someone else controls the environment it's living in. The heart is where happiness comes from and cannot be programmed. It possesses the knowledge and wisdom of millennium. It is the product of millions of years of evolution which cannot be erased. A person only needs to stop listening to the wrong temporary programming they received. Unhappiness is a mental illness which is described as a wide range of conditions that affect mood, thinking and behavior. These conditions can be chronic or temporary, biological or environmental. This type of sickness can be cured. This unhappiness is environmental. Human beings with biological forms of mental illness are different from the billions of people simply running on bad programming. The circumstances that affect a happy child's view of him or herself and the world around them were present before the child was even born so there might be a few things left on your table once you become an adult, but it's worth it because once you do you will laugh with joy. You will remember how perfect you are. As long as your table is clear you will never forget this. You can do lots of things to enrich your life and give you more experiences, but there is nothing else you need to do except be you. Happiness does not come from the mind. It is a feeling. Feelings come from the heart, not the physical organ, but rather the undefinable place in the human faculty that connects us to one another and to something greater than ourselves which is beyond thought. The mind, on the other hand, is the ultimate observer, the documenter, the analyzer, but it cannot observe something it cannot see. Once something is felt, the mind can spring into action and try its best to identify the feeling, but it is not the source of the feeling like it is the source of thoughts. The mind is the witness. It is the witness of something happening that is out of its control which is why feelings are so scary to someone who lets their mind rule their life, and often tries to rule the lives of others. We cannot control the world and we cannot control our feelings, but we can control how we behave in response to both. How we learn to control our behavior in relation to what we feel can either be motivated by acceptance or fear. The compulsion for control is a product of fear. There is healthy fear like remembering to look both ways before crossing the street and there is unhealthy fear like trying to control other people. Which we choose to control, ourselves or others, will determine if we become more happy or more fearful. Acting out of fear only strengthens the fear. It doesn't make it go away. The only way to make fear go away is to face it. Acting out of unhappiness is an attempt to change the world and people rather than yourself. Your happiness is already inside you. All you have to do in order to access it is clear the way and let go of control which understandably is hard to do in a world that keeps us separated and competing with one another. This is why focusing on ourselves, not the world, is the first step. Seeing one another as members of the same tribe rather than a threat or rival starts with recognizing and facing the fears inside us, first. Fear is what's blocking your happiness from expressing itself. Own your fear and conquer it. People and the world only trigger your fears. They are not your fears. Your fears are inside you blocking you from your happiness. Face and eliminate then and there will be nothing left to trigger. The rest of the world will suddenly become a lot less scary, especially if it's full of others doing the same. Find them. Happiness is amplified by connecting with others who are not living in fear either.
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